Ever since we were young our parents told us that we could do anything we wanted to do. Be whoever we wanted to be. This truly impacts a child’s life and how they view adulthood. Ever wonder why when you ask a child what they want to be when they grow up they say a ballerina, Spiderman or an astronaut? It’s because they truly believe they can be ANYTHING.
Then as you grow up you realize that oh maybe being a ballerina is not a sustainable career for me. Will I make enough money doing that? So, you switch your mind to stray away from what you truly love, and what makes you happy or excited, and you just … settle. Settle … I hate that word. No one should have to “settle” for a certain career or even everyday life because you were now told that your dreams are unrealistic.
Society, and possibly even your parents without knowing it, brainwash you. Basically as soon as you get into high school you’re pressured to know exactly what you want to do with your life. What path you want to take. What university or college you want to go to. Etc. Etc. It is viewed as not okay to not know what you want to do with your life. We are told that “those people” will not do something meaningful with their life. What does that even mean? Who defines what is meaningful and fulfilling? Is there even one straight definition for those words?
I was one of those brainwashed children. Ever since I was young I knew nothing except the fact that I needed my shit together before I graduate high school so I can apply and get into a great university. So I ended up doing exactly that. Except I had no clue what I wanted to take. My parents had a large influence on that choice and, because I trusted them with everything, I did what I thought would make them proud of me without even really realizing it. Now, being in my last year, I don’t even know if I enjoy this. I wish at some point, someone would have told me its okay to take time off and not know what you want to do … find what interests and excites you and pursue that.
Society nowadays is so overly caught up in money. Who makes the most money, who has the nicest things, what jobs pay the best … and that is what education we are pushed to get. I am here to tell you that it is okay not to have a fricken clue what you want to do. It is okay to not follow the “norms” of society and take time for yourself. Figuring out what makes you happy is extremely important and I have now just figured that out at the age of 20. Figure out what makes you happy and those who truly love you will support anything you decide to do. Don’t let what others think sway your life because in the end you need to be happy.
Its very cheesy, but you only live once … so make it count.
Sorry for that little rant, I had to get it off my chest 🙂
Till next time, xoxo